Tips For Parents Expecting Twins
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Tips For Parents Expecting Twins

Aug 12, 2017 1 Comment

As if one weren’t enough to shake up a life, you’ve just found out you’re having two. Whether you’re frightened or thrilled at the prospect of having twins, you’ve already stepped onto the wave, and the challenges and joys ahead are part of the ride. The most important thing you can do is accept and embrace the babies. They’ll be here any minute, and they need your strength, faith, and most of all, love. Here are six tips for parents expecting twins, from your friendly neighborhood Newborn Care Expert. You can find even more advice at Twiniversity, a site for new parents of multiples. Read my post about my first experience as a newborn care expert for twins, here. Today, my client says she couldn’t imagine life with only one baby.

  1. Accept

Your very first challenge is to accept that you’re having twins. Yes, this means double the work and double the rush, but it can also mean double the joy. Embrace the fact your family might be growing faster than planned. I can’t stress enough how important your mindset will be in the coming year!

  1. Prepare

Now’s the time to gather information about twin life like a magpie. Read articles on the Internet, buy books, take a parenting class. Join a twin-parent support group or your local mom’s group. And tell your family, because their love is invaluable.

Twins by Pixabay
  1. Face A New Reality

Once the twins are born, hit the ground running. Yes, you’ll be in survival mode for the first three months at least, but twins are a trial by fire, and you’ll be a better parent at the end of it. When you feel crushed or tired, remind yourself that growing pains are normal — after all, you’ve transformed, seemingly overnight, from a person into a parent. And you’ll keep learning and growing every day you spend with your new babies. It’s a joy to watch their personalities come clear. Even when they look like mirror images, no two babies are ever the same.

  1. Don’t See Double

Twins are double the giggles, hugs, and fun; also double the bottles, laundry, and expenses. However, it’s crucial to remember that each baby is unique. Each will develop at their own rate and in their own time. As you embark on the twin parenting journey, try not to compare them in negative ways.

  1. Practice Patience

Twins learn patience, learning early that they must wait their turn. Parents of twins learn patience, too. Your twin experience will pay dividends in the form of your character and theirs.

Of course, practicing patience isn’t easy, especially if you’re also sleep deprived. If you can afford it, hire someone to help out while the twins are small, either with baby care, or simple household chores. Take turns with your partner or other family members, create and follow a newborn life schedule, and keep your babies in sync whenever possible. They should nap together, feed together, and play together. Babies pick up on their environment, and creating a calm space will help them thrive.

  1. Trust Your Instincts

No one anywhere is as bombarded with well-meaning advice as new parents, and because you’re the parent of twins, that counts double (doesn’t everything?). The people around you want to help — in fact, they might be wondering how you’re still standing — so thank them for their help, but feel free to completely and totally ignore it. When it comes to your babies, YOU are the EXPERT!

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1 Comments

  1. Twins are such an adventure! There is nothing like it. It is hard work in the early days and you may frequently feel like you just don’t have enough time to give either baby the attention or cuddles you would like or that you see your friends give to their singleton babies (or that you perhaps had with an older sibling) but it slowly gets easier and then becomes a huge amount of fun. Watching twins interact and explore the world together is so special. If you’re expecting twins you are in for a magical ride! And of course, having some help in the early days is essential, whether it is a spouse, or relative, or friends. Take anyone up on their offer to help. You have to in order to survive. Ruby was our baby nurse and we couldn’t have survived without her. She was so skilled at looking after our premmie twins so effortlessly. Her help enabled me to get the very important rest needed so that I could breast feed and pump and keep up my supply. I also have an older child and it was hard balancing her emotions with the arrival of two new siblings but I was able to give her the focus and attention she needed comforted by the knowledge that my twins were in the best possible care and receiving love and nurturing. And Ruby is a natural with older children too and even after being up all night with the two babies she would happily play with my oldest in the morning and give me precious time alone with the babies. My twins are now 11 months old, they are so healthy, they are meeting all their milestones despite being premature and, most importantly, they are the happiest little babies. I know that a great deal of that is down to the fact that we had Ruby helping us at the beginning when life would have been almost impossible to manage and she brought calm and love to their early days, weeks and months. Ruby has expertise above any other baby nurse. She really is wonderful!

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